White gay men also respond less frequently to messages in general than gay men of color.
The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.But in online dating profiles he uses a common English first name and an Italian surname.He waits until he meets someone to reveal his real name and racial/ethnic identity because men sometimes stop talking to him when they find out he’s partly Indian.Another person I know is Black but has self-identified as mixed-race on Grindr because he gets little attention when he identifies himself as Black.
And the attention he does receive for identifying as Black isn’t favorable – it’s frequently unsolicited and racialized.
White lesbian women respond to Ok Cupid messages from other white women 49% of the time but respond to messages from women of color 47.6% of the time (excluding response rate to Indian women due to small sample).