But avoiding "tough love" denies us the opportunity to enhance respect and trust in our relationships and our lives.Invalidating a partner's feelings undermines the level of trust and respect in the relationship.You were disappointed that I didn't arrive on time. I hate that feeling myself and I am glad that you brought it up, instead of resenting me silently for it. I will try my best to not let it happen again." This is an example of mirroring, a part of active listening.
First up, big kudos to him—and you also get points for taking the lead on logistics. Outdoor gear is like sex toys: fun and exciting, but it won’t add chemistry to a relationship that doesn’t already have it, and it won’t make someone, um, good if they haven’t already taken the time to learn.
We often avoid criticism by discouraging those who give it, or dismissing it as invalid.