Earlier this week we asked you, readers, to write in telling us how you maintain desire in a long-term relationship.We wanted solutions you may have found to the problem of monogamy, experiments that have failed, and perhaps a defense of sexual fidelity itself. We’re publishing some of these responses today and tomorrow. My husband and I both date other partners, and we've been doing so since before we were married.I was struggling with it—often pushing them away because I know I can’t give them what they want. Let it be Ok to just love each other in whatever way you can.
The next time somebody says to me, “Let me love you,” I will not pull away and reject it so quickly. Today I choose to give my love to people I feel it for. Or because I may end up in a relationship with them down the line.